An Invitation:

Special Q&A episode of Menage A Tarot Podcast

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Menage A Tarot is putting together a special Q&A episode and we need YOUR help!

Have a question about Tarot, psychics, oracles, the host’s work outside the podcast, the host’s work inside the podcast, the paranormal, the normal normal…just ask!

Please submit your question to Menage A Tarot Podcast by email …menageatarot@gmail.com OR tweet it to us @menageatarot, post it to the Podcast’s facebook page or use the hand contact form on the Menage A Tarot website.

Thanks!

P.S. Can you help us out with one more thing? This is not a free reading giveaway. We really need questions that everyone can enjoy, and that can spark public discussion…not questions that only apply to one person’s private situation. Thanks again!!

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New Menage A Tarot Podcast: Tarot and Personal Boundaries

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Tarot and Personal Boundaries

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In this episode of Menage A Tarot, we talk about where we draw the line in doing readings, what is in and out of bounds in our reading practice, issues with other readers and more. One topic that came up is local laws and the “for entertainment only” disclaimer we so often see on Tarot and psychic sites.

On one hand, laws against “fortune telling” are as narrow minded, fear-driven, superstitious nonsense as the fraudulent activity they aim to end. Crazy as it may seem, I actually support the legal prohibition against that kind “fortune telling” because it really is impossible to predict the future, whether it is for a fee or not. People who claim to make “100% accurate predictions” or claim to fix your love life really are, in my opinion, out to bilk money out of vulnerable people. They also ruin the public perception of intuitive work for those of us who want to help and read ethically.

I approach Tarot with much of the same ethical attitude that is taught in Reiki, mainstream medicine, and any other health care – because I believe it is a healing modality just as valid and effective as any other form of spiritual guidance, stress reduction or mind-body healing. I don’t have the science to prove it other than individual anecdotes – but that doesn’t mean it isn’t true. The Higgs Boson has existed – valid, real, true – since the beginning of the universe, but we haven’t had the hard scientific proof until a few years ago. Just because the hard science data hasn’t yet been compiled doesn’t mean the truth of thing doesn’t yet exist. The validity of Tarot and intuitive work…their role as a valid choice in a healthy mind-body-spirituality balance…isn’t erased just because no one has taken the time or spent the resources to compile a study.

That being said, this  seems like this is the perfect time to let you know just exactly how I approach Tarot readings. This is what I think an ethical Tarot practice should be like…but of course opinions vary.

Tarot readings:

  • Should be clear, kind and compassionate – never frightening or intimidating.
  • Can help you learn, grow spiritually, understand your situation, solve problems more creatively and make more productive decisions.
  • Can not predict the future, fix your situation, or read what other people feel,think or will do.
  • Respect each individual’s spirituality, and does not require certain beliefs for the reading to “work”
  • give helpful suggestions, but never prescribes specific actions – such as regularly scheduled readings or special services the reader offers for additional cost
  • Respects privacy, always
  • Are not the place for medical or pregnancy questions. Those questions are for health professionals.
  • Should have prices and business policies clearly stated in advance. Mine are HERE

Please enjoy the new episode! If you have any questions about ethics and tarot readings please let me know HERE or at modernoracletarot@gmail.com

To catch up with past Menage A Tarot episodes, please visit www.menageatarot.com, iTunes, Stitcher, or TuneIn

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I’m in a Podcast…who would have thought…

Menaga A Tarot Podcast is now live (I’m a co-host…who would have thought…)

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“Menage A Tarot”  Podcast is now available…

Please visit www.MenageATarot.com and listen to the premiere episode

 

In this episode: “Three Friends Playing With a Full Deck”. Meet the hosts, hear hints about upcoming episodes, decks, intuition and more.

Episode 2: “You know, THAT client” coming in August

 

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The Art of Advice

The Art of Advice

As I see it, there are two big pitfalls in doing Tarot readings for someone other than yourself: Predictions and Pronouncements.

If you’ve read Modern Oracle Tarot for more than five minutes you already know how I feel about predictions. Choice is more powerful. The role of intuition is to broaden horizons. Readings should inspire, empower, and give options, not predict the future – you know the drill.

Readings are about advice. When you do a reading for someone else, you are basically giving them advice, whether your guidance is drawn from your conscious experience and know-how, or drawn from spirit / inner knowing / intuition through using the cards.

Sometimes when people just aren’t hearing what I’m saying, I’ll put the hammer down, go into Tenth Doctor no-second-chances, no-means-no mode if someone keeps insisting on a prediction after I’ve told them it isn’t appropriate. That’s on them for ignoring the advice that is honestly given. The other half, the pronouncements, that’s all on me.

Saying ‘you should’ do such and such is just as limiting, and dis-empowering as a prediction. It plants a seed, sets the other person up for “self-fulfilling prophecy” not true choice. It is one of the most enduring and endearing premises of “Doctor Who” on TV – everyone, even the bad guys, must be given a real choice. If we pronounce what they “should” do we are asking them to learn from OUR mistakes, re-walk OUR path – we are not honoring, guiding or shining a light on THEIR path. For some people, our advice turns on the light bulb over their head, and eases the learning process. Other people need to learn the hard way (the way many of readers did). Who are we as card-readers and advice-givers to decide which is which?

Sometimes I will stray into a hair on fire “you should” mode, but I try to avoid it UNLESS it is a sitter I know well or feel very comfortable with and UNLESS the intuitive impression is strong enough to warrant the DefCon-1 red alert. Otherwise, I try to lay out the choices supported by some basic “if-then” logic. If you do X, then there is a big chance of Y happening, but if you do A then B might be possible….that sort of thing. Unless you are reading for your actual child, the advice is best left to suggestions and nudges in my opinion. Reading for kids is a whole other kettle of fish, and I’ll write a post about that if you want….but 99% of the time I read for adults. If someone is an adult, then it is only right that I respect their choice, autonomy and dignity. That’s how I want to be treated in a reading. I don’t react well to ‘thou shalt’ or even ‘you should’ pronouncements. Tell me why, give me alternatives, and I’ll consider it. Tell me what I ‘should’ do and I’ll turn into an oppositional teenager quicker than you can say Johnny Rotten. I promise to treat everyone I read for with the same respect and dignity that I expect to receive.

By the same token (funny how there are always two sides to every coin) other situations really do need the “you should” approach to get the message through. Sometimes we all need a ‘dutch uncle’ (or aunt) to tell us like it is, lay it on the line and shock us into paying attention. “Thou shalts” aren’t always bad.

The art in giving advice lies in

  1. Knowing when to nudge in the right direction and when to break out the frying pan in the face approach.
  2. Trusting the process. If we stay true to our own reading style, to our own hearts and intuition as readers, then we can trust the message will ultimately get through in the right way for each person, even if it takes a little time,  trial and error, and a few mis-matched readings to get there.
  3. Realizing it is their path to walk, not ours. Ultimately our advice may make no difference whatsoever, and that is OK. Maybe, just maybe,  we are meant to be there to help pick up the pieces after they fall, not keep them from falling in the first place.

So if you are a tarot reader, speak your truth in your own genuine way. However it goes, it is their path to walk, their lesson to learn. What matters is that you give the message honestly, openly, with loving intent, to the best of your ability. When that happens, the rest will take care of itself.

The Art of Advice: Love, speak your truth kindly, then trust.